Older men insecure dating younger women
Neither of these is the appropriate or confident response to the onset of aging (in the same way that wearing a toupee is a poor response to the onset of male baldness, for example).An acceptance of reality is the best response, and the reality is not nearly as bad as so many women believe.Since the time when I dated older women (a couple years ago now), I've found one, maybe two girls younger than me that I was attracted to and able to connect with - out of all the women I've encountered or even dated.Older women are simply more interesting to be around.What follows are my observations from that time in my life.For the purpose of this post, by "older women" I do not mean old women or women of any certain age or age range; I mainly mean women who are older than the man in question. Older women are more confident and comfortable around men - especially younger men, since they know that their experience cancels out some of his natural power over her. Some men know that older women are easier to nail, which is often why they pursue them.This is because of the natural accumulation of experiences over time.
Yet when we logged onto her old JDate profile, she audibly gasped. There’s a difference between a serial fabricator and a woman who is insecure that telling the truth will lead to age discrimination. Is the whole “fibbing your age” thing a blanket recommendation or just for women/men who may want to start a family again or who feel they are being wrongly discriminated against because of their age? I guess I’m okay with “weeding out” the guys who want to have babies.
2) My 71-year-old female client who is on a crew team but has never confessed her age, because she doesn’t want to feel “different” than everyone else.
She likes fitting in and sees no need to call attention to her age.
I had about three anecdotes about clients lying about their age that I didn’t get a chance to use.
1) My 54-year-old male client who had electric chemistry with a woman on a first date.
Their words carry more weight because they have experienced what they are talking about. All of this allows for an openness that makes a date or casual interaction much more enjoyable.